Love & Relationships Video - Refilming required

Greetings! The Love & Relationships video needs to be refilmed as it's grainy and there's lots of background noise. So please bear with us as we redo the video. I feel it's a very important and useful video so watch this space!

Love & Relationships

When I was transitioning I didn't have the benefit of someone sharing with me the pitfalls of love and relationships because people did not believe I had a right to "love" a man. Well, I've got news for you. You're perfect as you are and you deserve love and marital bliss like any other woman. The key is to keep an open mind, let go when you have to, and learn to recognise the different categories of men. Good luck! And thanks to E. for filming this!

Following your own heart

I am often asked, why I'm not wealthy, given my "intelligence" and why I'm not in a nice relationship.

And my answer to this question is: I'm not that intelligent, but I follow my own heart, which leads me to unexpected places. Sometimes I feel intensely alone and depressed, like today, but this is also when I call on God the loudest. And I know He is not far away, which gives me incredible strength and courage to go on following my own heart.

Sometimes I don't follow my own heart because I'm afraid that God will not deliver, and this is when I stumble, sometimes so terribly that I don't have the tears to define the pain, but I always find my way back with God's help.

And so, if you ask me, do I believe in God, do I have a religion, I will say yes, I believe in God, but I don't have a religion. I have a spiritual relationship with God.

New video - Love & Relationships

I will film a new motivational video tomorrow on "Love & Relationships" that I'm terribly excited about because it will coalesce my personal experience on the subject. The aim of the video is to motivate women in general to follow their "personal legend" and be true to themselves. Both transsexual and non-transsexual women can benefit from the video. It will also help men gain useful insights into the transsexual condition - and how their reactions to and treatment of trans women reflects their own characters, hang-ups (if any) and upbringing. Watch this space.

I would appreciate it if you could post your feedback regarding the videos on youtube. Your feedback will help me shape the new book I'm working on.

Thank you!

High Stakes Courtroom Drama Retraced at www.thepumproom.com

Alcohol, interior design and a tranny. The high-stakes courtroom drama involving the Pump Room and Poole Associates will be played out at the Supreme Court on Monday, 3 November 08. Log on to www.thepumproom.com for the details. Do not be surprised to see this "ladyboy's" appearance on the website.

Love

This blog is about social change and how we can bring about effective social change through peaceful means. "Love" somehow doesn't seem an appropriate topic for the blog, and yet "love" is truly that one great emotion that can stir me to action. Because of love, my restful sleep is disrupted. Because of love, I feel hopeful. Because of love, I can run 15 km without feeling exhausted. And yet in my chequered past, most of my relationships have been failures - what makes me continue to believe in "love"? Because there is no other way. Denying that I need and want to feel loved would turn me into a cold, bitter person. And I've seen how, through it all, I've grown as a person. I've accepted my physical and character flaws, and worked to refine the latter. I've also discovered that it's ok - and in fact better for everyone - to be who I am and to do what I love to do, than to compromise in the hope that love would run to me sooner. By this, I mean continue to embellish my website, continue to give motivational talks, continue to run long distances competitively, continue to grow my mosaic art box, continue to windsurf into the sunset. I don't have to change myself to fit into a box of the "picture perfect" woman. I think I'm more lovable like this. Although I will still try to remove my tummy fat...

Sex

Sex. For too long it has been a "taboo" subject for transsexual women. As a result, we have been subjected to either caricaturisation in the mainstream media or prurient debates on our body parts. Some of us have gone to the extreme of pandering to voyeuristic stereotypes of the tranny performer, playing to the hype of the transgender goddess, while others have fallen prey to tranny chasers who enjoy the secret thrill of having sex with a strikingly tall and attractive transsexual. Regardless of the approach - the end result is the same: we have been ruthlessly and relentless exploited to fulfil the warped sexual fantasies of men.

Sex. We too crave sexual fulfilment. And it's time for us to be fulfilled on our terms. I don't know who you are or where you are, but it's ok to have sexual desires. it's ok to want to look attractive. Sex is only "dirty" when they say you shouldn't enjoy it on your terms.