Sex

Sex. For too long it has been a "taboo" subject for transsexual women. As a result, we have been subjected to either caricaturisation in the mainstream media or prurient debates on our body parts. Some of us have gone to the extreme of pandering to voyeuristic stereotypes of the tranny performer, playing to the hype of the transgender goddess, while others have fallen prey to tranny chasers who enjoy the secret thrill of having sex with a strikingly tall and attractive transsexual. Regardless of the approach - the end result is the same: we have been ruthlessly and relentless exploited to fulfil the warped sexual fantasies of men.

Sex. We too crave sexual fulfilment. And it's time for us to be fulfilled on our terms. I don't know who you are or where you are, but it's ok to have sexual desires. it's ok to want to look attractive. Sex is only "dirty" when they say you shouldn't enjoy it on your terms.

I Am - Pump Room Incident & Various Reflections

Fear is borne of ignorance. Anger merely fuels fear. Forgive and forget means exactly that - forgive and don't remember anymore. Forgiveness is something that I struggle with a lot. But it's this struggle that makes us so human. Don't let anyone tell you it's wrong to struggle with issues. And I continue to find it amazing that so many people in positions of power continue to try to dehumanise us, when we are the ones who struggle so much, against all odds, to be who we are. Sometimes, I just laugh it all off. Humour is a great remedy. Just laugh it all off when you can't take it anymore. If you can cry and laugh at the same time, you're very human indeed.

Scientists Find Gene for Transsexual Experience

This is interesting news indeed - nonetheless, even if there were no such genes, transsexuals don't have to justify their right to be to anyone.

Design your own website

I use Ewisoft to build my own web-site in one-two-three easy steps. I used to struggle with complicated programmes and software which made website designing a nightmare for a technologically challenged person like me!

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I Am - Life & Times

This is the first of two clips that most effectively summarise some of the angst of growing up as a transsexual in Singapore. This clip covers the social, emotional and professional aspects of my life,and I'm glad to say I'm nearly there in terms of finding my equilibrium and coming to terms with myself. Enjoy the clip!

leonalo.com is up again

There have been a number of problems with leonalo.com, but I'm pleased to say the website is up again. I will be adding many more pages to the website. Thank you for your support!

The Rosa Parks Story

As I explained during the talk, I have always drawn my inspiration from the Rosa Parks story, and I have always held feisty African American heroines like Rosa Parks and Sojourner Truth as shining examples of women who fought for their rights with great strength of character, courage and dignity. Women like them are rare today because our minds and spirits have been numbed by the crass commercialism that has swept through the world. How tragic that one's mettle only shines through when one loses money in investments underwritten by Lehmen brothers!

Let's celebrate the spirit of Rosa Parks and her black sisters with this clip!

Part II

I Am - Motivational Talk

Many thanks to Eileena from Pelangi Pride Centre for organising the talk, Yvonne for filming and Kelvin for the video camera. Special thanks to DYMK (Does Your Mother Know) for hosting the event. And to all who attended - thanks for being there. This is the first of a series of videos which will also be posted on youtube. I should remember to blink less, but what's important here is, a positive portrayal of a transsexual woman's voice in Singapore.

Trans-friendly psychiatrists

My memory is failing me - can my dear readers please recommend me some trans-friendly psychiatrists? Thank you!

Thank you

A big thank you to all who attended the talk yesterday. I was rambling on most of the time, but I hope you took away some new and important insights.

While I tend not to engage with individuals on a one-to-one basis post-event, I will make an exception for Nancy, the kind and wonderful lady who is grappling with her son's gender identity conflict.

There are also some individuals whom I feel need counselling at a deeper level than some psychiatrists here in Singapore are able to provide. I am definitely not qualified to "help" any of you who fit into this category. I would suggest the excellent Dr Pamela Chan from Camden Medical Centre for a start.

I wish all of you a wonderful, blessed future!

Best Regards
Leona

I Am - Motivational Talk

I will hold a motivational talk "I Am", hosted by the Pelangi Pride Centre, in October. Details are given below. I regret I will not be able to give private one-to-one advice via email or any other media for now, so the best thing to do is to mark your diary and come down for the talk.

Event: "I Am" by Leona Lo
Date: Saturday, 11th October 2008
Time: 4pm
Venue: Pelangi Pride Centre
For more information, please email -
pelangipridecentre@yahoo.com